Candle in the Wind

February 18, 2013 by Bill Ivey

And it seems to me you lived your life like a candle in the wind...
- Elton John and Bernie Taupin

Filed Under: family, Bill Ivey, suicide awareness, teen suicide, loss

Lost Forever

December 18, 2012 by Bill Ivey

Like most of the country, I spent most of the weekend feeling devastated and overwhelmed. I was fortunate in that our annual girls basketball tournament took up most of my time on Friday and Saturday and insulated me somewhat from the pain and anguish of thinking about the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Except between games. And during half-time. And during time-outs. And sometimes in between time-outs. There’s a comfortable and safe feeling in a gym anyway, especially at our school, and as a long-time fan of girls and women’s basketball, watching a level of aggressiveness and intensity, a quality of competition, and an evenness of talent I did not remember from some of our earlier tournaments did my heart good. But a dull ache was there and, sooner or later, I was going to have to face up to what had happened in Connecticut, as a teacher and as a parent.

A young teacher named Erin had written the MiddleTalk listserve run by the Association of Middle Level Education asking for advice on how to talk about the tragedy with our children and how best to support her students. My friend Rebecca Lawson had written back with an impressive list of resources from Fred Rogers’s video, soothing in its sensibility and sensitivity, to an article in the Washington Post. That seemed a good place to start, and I worked my way through the resources, periodically staring out into space before shaking my head and refocusing on my computer screen.

Filed Under: grief, On Education, Bill Ivey, On Parenting, sandy hook, loss, newtown

Mission Critical

December 11, 2012 by Bill Ivey

Bullied Teen Amanda Todd Uploads Chilling Video Before Being Found Dead Another sad case.
- @JudyArzt, Twitter posting, October 13, 2012

Filed Under: Middle School, gender, LGBT Support, On Education, Bill Ivey, community, Acceptance, bullying, death, Stoneleigh-Burnham Middle School, loss, support, Anti-Bullying