Recently, a colleague shared out an article with the unfortunate headline, “My Daughter Is Not Transgender, She’s a Tomboy.” The author, Lisa Selin Davis, seemed to be saying she wished people would stop questioning her daughter’s gender identity based on her gender expression, including not only people who have fairly limited ideas of how boys and girls look and/or should look but also well-meaning people who wondered - repeatedly - if she was transgender and what pronouns she used. Ms. Davis wrote that she appreciated both the well-meaning question of whether her child might be transgender and the sensitivity to pronouns, objecting rather to those times when people seemed skeptical of the answers and/or kept re-asking the questions. I shared the article on Twitter, adding the comment, “Seems like the underlying message is adults need to listen to kids about how they view who they are w/openness to all genders/expressions.” And several of my colleagues told me they enjoyed the article, thinking in particular of their own daughters who are frequently mistaken for boys.
It’s GLSEN’s “Ally Week,” and they’ve been sharing some wonderful resources. A "Dear Ally” letter was so strong and so concise that I decided to share it with Kaya Kim, our student Head of Community Alliance, Willy Therrien, our Dean of Community Life, Shawn Durrett, our Dean of Faculty, and Tod Pleasant, our GSA advisor. Ms. Durrett said she thought it would be a good resource for her classes, and Willy shared a link to another GLSEN page, “Actions for Allies.”
I look around and notice more and more conferences paying more and more attention to race, class, and multicultural competence. Last year’s Teaching and Learning Conference was a great example of a huge step forward, and this year, they consolidated that step forward with a good number of awesome and thought-provoking keynotes, panels, and sessions with noted educators of colour such as Renée Moore, Pedro Noguera, and José Vilson, and perhaps most significantly, 11-year-old Marley Dias. Ms. Dias found herself frustrated by the dearth of books featuring Black girls in her school; when her mother asked her what she intended to do about it, she didn’t hesitate for a second. In November of 2016, she launched the wildly successful #1000BlackGirlBooks drive, more than quadrupling her initial goal. (Teaching and Learning 2016) You can find her website here.
As it turned out, Alaine Jolicoeur, our French teacher-intern, and I wanted to attend the exact same sessions at Saturday’s GLSEN-Massachusetts conference and, as it turned out, we both had good instincts as that made for just about the perfect flow for the day. It began with keynote speeches focusing on affirming the wonderful spectrum of people attending as well as the inclusive theme “both/and,” moving on to a morning session dominated by trans and non-binary kids telling their stories and sharing methods of self-care, lunch, a session on intersectionality with a mix of kids and adults, a session attended entirely by educators on supporting K-8 kids, and finally a closing moment written and performed by those attending Trenda Loftin’s final workshop session.
When progress reports are due, I’ve developed a comfortable routine of going from McCusker’s to Shelburne Falls Coffee Roasters to Bread Euphoria to Starbucks to Rao’s back to Starbucks and so on until all my skills assessments and narrative comments are done and I’m ready to return to school and enter them in FileMaker. So each fall, when I see the first announcement of the GLSEN-Massachusetts Educators’ Retreat and it falls right at winter midterms, I feel - conflicted. Sad. This year, however, I simply decided it was by far my best opportunity to meet, learn from, and network with educators who, whether or not they personally are LGBTQ etc., want to support our students who are. So, with some trepidation at what I was taking on, I set out for Provincetown right after classes on Friday with my trusty laptop and a few changes of clothes.